being scared of side effects
I think I am scared of side effects of my actions and that paralyzes me from taking action that I will like to take. Allow me to explain. A place that this manifests mostly is in giving advice, if I give someone advice and they actually take it, there's a chance that things might go wrong and they blame me for giving them advice. Another place that this manifests is in doing certain things, say, talking to a girl might lead to something else and what if it leads to something I am not really prepared for? Or I make a career choice and then it leads me to a road that is not favorable to me. I like to tell myself that I am just a second-order or third-order thinker but when does third-order thinking just become being scared of outcomes. It leads me to rationalize inaction and ignoring certain opportunities but as any reasonable person knows, risk and reward are the different parts of the same coin. I turned a serious age this year, and I have recently started to re-examine my beliefs and I think its time to stop being scared of my outcomes and take a driving seat in my life. Only then, I think, can I live the life that I really want for myself.